sexuality sex and the disabled

you had a strokeor you been in a car wreck and now are paraplegic with no feeling below the waist
you and your fiancé are still planning a getting married, to comfort you in the hospital she lies down beside you fully clothed and then the fun starts.
Someone visiting the guy in the next bed wonders in some lady in her 50s and she says in horror of you even think about the one beside you as it was her business she's shocked that you are disabled and even thinking about going through with the marriage or your fiancé's parents are horrified at the thought of their daughter being married to someone with no feeling below the waist. And they ask how will you have children and in talking to women who have been an accident that has done this to them you get even worse hot even think about having children is often the question of fact is our society well very advanced in when it comes to sexuality and sex in the able-bodied is still very much in the Victorian era when it comes to the idea of anyone being disabled having an interest in the opposite sex. It is almost as though they expect those of us who are differently able to basically be sexless adult manikins like you would see in the store myself I am married and have been for 25 years and I'll be darned if I'm going to give up being a lover to my wife, things might be a bit different because still make love but we just can't do it the way we used to because my left side is not having the strength anymore. I recall talking to young lady last summer while i was in the hospital who now was paralyzed from the waist down at her, it was she may not build a jump her fiancé's phones like she used to but by God even she could not feel him inside of her when they made love she still has no feeling above the waist and could quite enjoy his hands on her breasts and back so she fully extended to have children and enjoy her future husband love as a sexy active woman. I did a long search to find any books on sex sexuality and disability and the only book I found with sex sexuality and the disabled, it is a really good book and gives a lot of advice to those of us who now find ourselves in different circumstances with our bodies but don't ever think that gal in the wheelchair does not want a husband or lover just because she can't move like a so-called normal woman or that guy who can no longer walk does not want a woman a lover and a wife like any other man . These are basic human needs and losing feeling below your waist or paralysis from a stroke changes that
.I speak from experience I had a blind lover one time that because of epileptic seizures and lost all feeling from the top of her thighs to below her waist in the front she still wanted a man inside of her making love to her so lose your Victorian hangups on the disabled wanting a lover or a husband or wife